Work-Life Harmony: Ditching the Balance Myth and Finding What Works
Work-Life Harmony: Ditching the Balance Myth and Finding What Works
For years, I chased the idea of work-life balance — that elusive, perfect split between career and home where everything runs smoothly and nothing ever overlaps. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t exist. At least not in the way we’ve been taught to imagine it.
As a tech leader and mom, I’ve learned that balance isn’t the goal — harmony is.
The Myth of Perfect Balance
Balance implies equality — that work and life should get the same amount of time, energy, and attention. But life doesn’t work like that. Some days, work demands more. Other days, home needs me fully. Trying to force balance only led to guilt, burnout, and frustration.
So I let go of the myth. And I started building a rhythm that works for me.
What Harmony Looks Like
Harmony is fluid. It’s about being present where you are, adjusting as needed, and giving yourself grace in the process. It’s knowing that some days will be heavy on meetings and deadlines, while others will be filled with school pickups, dance recitals, and bedtime stories.
It’s not about doing it all — it’s about doing what matters most in each moment.
My Go-To Tips for Creating Work-Life Harmony
Here are a few things that help me stay grounded and present in both worlds:
1. Time Blocking with Intention
I schedule everything — from team check-ins to family dinners. Blocking time for both work and home helps me stay focused and avoid overlap. I even block “transition time” between roles so I can mentally shift gears.
2. Clear Boundaries, Flexible Mindset
I set boundaries around work hours, but I also stay flexible. If I need to take a call during a soccer game, I do it with intention — and I make sure to be fully present afterward. Flexibility doesn’t mean lack of structure; it means adapting with purpose.
3. Daily Check-Ins with Myself
Every morning, I ask: What needs me most today? That simple question helps me prioritize and release the pressure to do everything. Some days, the answer is work. Other days, it’s my kids. And that’s okay.
4. Grace Over Guilt
I’ve learned to give myself grace. I won’t always get it right. I’ll miss moments. I’ll drop balls. But I remind myself: I’m showing up with love, intention, and effort — and that’s enough.
Final Thoughts
Work-life harmony isn’t a destination — it’s a practice. It’s about tuning into your life, adjusting the volume where needed, and creating a rhythm that feels authentic and sustainable.
To every working parent out there: you don’t have to choose between being a great leader and a great mom. You can be both — in your own way, on your own terms.
Let’s keep showing up, shifting gears, and leading with heart.